The Real Meaning of Noblesse Oblige

My favorite English teacher, a tough, old-fashioned broad named Miss Edna Stewart, spent an entire high school class period discussing the meaning and obligation of noblesse oblige. It was the motto of the National Honor Society, so she was trying to get the ethics of it through our thick skulls. It is the class period I have never forgotten.

Noblesse oblige literally translates to “nobility obligates.” It implies that with wealth, power and prestige come social responsibilities; it is a moral obligation to act with honor, kindliness and generosity.

The term is often used sarcastically, implying that one is a hypocrite by doing a service because one has to, or by being condescending while doing it. My mother used to refer to that kind of attitude as being a “Lady Bountiful,” doing good deeds because you’re special, to make yourself feel better and make others feel bad at the same time.

For citizens of America, true noblesse oblige has nothing to do with high birth, power or prestige. True noblesse oblige is a responsibility for all of us who have been given the benefits of living in a free land, founded on the highest principles. If we, as a country, miss the mark, it is no reflection on the founding principles. It means we have the responsibility to use our energies and intelligence to return to basics and fix it.

When I was in college, I remember the speeches of John F. Kennedy, and how they touched each of us at depth. Every one of us wanted to serve the country, to make it better, to “Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country.” Frankly, I felt that same way when I heard Barack Obama’s speech the evening of Super Tuesday. It brought tears to my eyes and made me want to be a better person.

A modern day mystic, Andrew Harvey, is teaching a concept called “Sacred Activism.” It doesn’t mean we all get on board and volunteer to solve one particular problem. What it does mean is that we seek to find the problem that breaks our heart, and then work like blue blazes to fix that. That may mean education, or health care, or violence in our communities, or any of a million other evils.

But it does mean that we enter into that true spirit of noblesse oblige–and do it. It is the only answer for our country, and our world.

First Lady Abigail Adams once wrote to her son, John Quincy Adams, “These are times in which a genius would wish to live. It is not in the still calm of life, or in the repose of a pacific station, that great characters are formed…The habits of a vigorous mind are formed in contending with difficulties. All history will convince you of this… Great necessities call out great virtues. When a mind is raised, and animated by scenes that engage the heart, then those qualities which would otherways lay dormant, wake into life, and form the character of the hero and the statesman.”

We do not need to be wealthy, or powerful, or president to be a hero. We merely need to act, with honor, and with a loving and ethical heart.

New book, working title “In the Midst of Greatness.”

The next book is about the siblings of the presidents, and I have been working on the first Virginia presidents for the past few months; went to Virginia and was in heaven in all the homes and museums–and the Jefferson Library. When I came out of the library into the wild freshness of a Virginia winter, I was so filled with joy I wanted to twirl around like Julie Andrews on a mountaintop.

I am continually astounded at how the presidents–and often their families, too–gave everything they had for this country, usually winding up in disastrous debt and dying in poverty. I keep thinking of George Washington’s sister and brother-in-law, Betty and Fielding Lewis. Fielding gave his entire fortune to build an ammunition and gun factory, and died just days after he learned of Cornwallis’ defeat. Betty had little after his death, but what a blessing they learned about America’s victory before he died.

Would I have been willing to give up everything for a new country? Would I have been a sunshine patriot? I don’t know. But I do know that I, too,–and we–have a sacred responsibility to this country…now, more than ever.

Americans choose!

This morning, I headed out of a shop and said, “I’ve got to go vote now.” Before I reached the door, I was filled with elation. I turned back and said, “No, I GET to go vote now.”

On this Super Tuesday, for the first time in history, we have Hillary Clinton, a woman, Barack Obama, a Black American, John McCain, a former prisoner of war, and Mitt Romney, a Mormon. And they are all viable candidates. We, as Americans, get to choose among them, and others. It is an exciting day.

We must vote with our minds and hearts, sincerely choosing what we believe to be the highest and best for our country. We must not be affected by exit polls or any other ruses that might skew our decisions.

Back in 1948, Harry Truman spoke about polls: “These polls,” he said, “are like sleeping pills designed to lull the voters into sleeping on election day. You might call them ’sleeping polls.’” His opponent “keeps handing out these sleeping polls, and some people have been taking them. This doctor keeps telling the people, ‘Don’t worry, take a poll and go to sleep.’ But most of the people are not being fooled.”

I encourage all of us, as faithful Americans, not to go to sleep today. Today, WE get to choose.